It occurred to me in the shower today that I should probably note more positive changes I've made, as opposed to focusing on the negative. In order for you to fully appreciated these changes, I feel like I need to give you a little background on my marriage.
Husband and I happily live in a Neverland kind of existence--our three and a half year marriage is pretty much equivalent to a three and a half year sleepover. If you gave a couple of 10 year-olds the ability to drive and a credit card, that would be us. We go to work, pretend we're grown-ups, and then come home and play. We play games, do puzzles, watch movies, laugh, poke at each other, show each other crazy internet stuff, and generally goof off. We only clean if we're expecting company or we're trying to eliminate some funky smell.
We also eat like a couple of 10 year-olds with no adult supervision and a credit card.
Seriously, nachos are considered a legitimate dinner because meat is involved. So are chips and salsa because salsa has vegetables in it. I'm not joking.
So when I tell you that I started making real grown-up food for dinner, and have incorporated fruits and vegetables into our meals, I want you to appreciate what that means. We had homemade chicken stir-fry last night, and it was good. Husband got out the rice cooker and made rice to go with it! Look at us! Being grown-ups!
There is hope.
I think your marriage is perfect. Don't change it for a thing!
ReplyDeleteHowever, once being the married couple who ate out every.single.night. as well, I can relate how this affects your waistline and your wallet.
My problem is, I hate cooking. I get super anxious about things not turning out well and my husband not eating dinner. So I have a few things in my cooking arsenal that I have on constant rotation. I thought I was going to have a heartattack when I made dinner for you because I had never done that receipe.
Find things you like to cook and eat! If they are a bit unhealthy, google ways to make them better. Stir fry is amazing! However, we tried it with brown rice and it wasn't the same :(
Thanks! I love our Neverland marriage, but I do worry what will happen when we have kids. I don't want to change, but I kinda want our kids to have that normal "sit around the dinner table, eating grown-up food, and discussing their day" childhood that I had. But I like eating in front of the TV and making our own MST3K commentary for shows. Sigh.
ReplyDeleteI actually like cooking, but I have to be in the mood, otherwise my feminist self rebels, and insists that this is a representation of the patriarchal oppression of women in society, as opposed to, you know, a quiche.
Thanks for your support, Danielle! It means a lot!